Reasonable things to ask.

No, and deliberately not. Event planners assume someone is hosting, someone is invited, and the date is fixed. ToGethered is for recurring informal gatherings where none of that is true. If your gathering does need invitations, schedules and a firm guest list, it should graduate to RSVP.express or Eventius — that handoff is built in.

Not to look. Browsing spots and seeing that a place is busy works with no account at all. You need one to post an intent or follow a spot — because both put you in front of other people, and that should be a real person rather than a throwaway.

A signed-out visitor sees only coarse presence: how many people, doing what. Never who. Your identity is shown only to signed-in members. Broadcasting an identifiable person’s location and schedule to anonymous strangers is not something we are willing to ship.

Then say so. There are five honest levels — no, unlikely, maybe, likely, yes — because "probably, if the wind holds" is real information and forcing it into a yes makes the headcount useless. Only maybe, likely and yes notify anyone. Change your mind whenever; that is expected, not rude.

You choose the activities and the weekdays you care about, and hear about nothing else. Following both a spot and a person who posts there gets you one notification, not two. Edits only re-notify when something material changes — a fixed typo does not ping fifteen people.

Simply, on purpose. Say you need a lift or can offer one, add the area you are leaving from, how many seats, and a note. That is the whole feature — everyone going can see it, and whoever it suits speaks up. Nothing pairs you up automatically, nothing plans a route, and the app never handles money. Chip in for petrol if that is your arrangement; it is between you, and we do not need to know. This is not a ride-share app: it is two people who were already going to the same place, sorting out one car between them.

No. There is no paid tier today and nothing is gated behind one.

No. The bot is where ToGethered works today, and it is genuinely the lowest-friction way in because your group is already there. The web app covers what chat cannot do well — maps, browsing, shareable links — and both use the same account.

ToGethered records where you intend to be and which spots you follow, because that is the product. It never sells that, and it never posts on your behalf. See the privacy page for the detail.

Everyone’s intents for one place on one date, in a single view — the answer to "who else is going to be at the beach on Saturday?" It is the thing you open, and the thing you share.